Everything happened so fast. Though our hearts were broken
with Miles’ tuberous sclerosis diagnosis we rejoiced that we didn’t have to
have heart surgery creating another disease for life. We were home; we were
healing emotionally and learning to live with a paradigm shift.
But if the last few months have taught me anything, it’s
that as soon as I feel like I have things figured out things go wrong.
Shocking us to the core, two and a half weeks ago we were
admitted for surgery. We were terrified we were making the wrong decision. By
putting this baby through surgery we were exposing him to a lifetime of
horrible pain, hospital visits and heart surgeries. With all the other things
going wrong in this little guy, was this really the right decision? We discussed
this question with many doctors and they told us if we didn’t do the surgery he
would live a painful life as his heart got worse and worse but wouldn’t pass
away until he was a toddler and at that time his heart and many other organs
would be irrevocably damaged. Heart surgery was the lesser of two evils and so after
a sleepless night at the hospital as we wrestled with this decision (and a
fasting baby) Miles went to the operating room.
The procedure lasted 7.5 hours and didn’t quite go as
planned. They hoped to be able to
simply remove the tumor to get his heart working well again. Unfortunately his
aortic valve was damaged and needed replacement. They removed his functioning
pulmonary valve, placed it in the aortic valve’s position and replaced it with
a cadaver valve. During the
process they severed a coronary artery that they discovered had grown inside
the aorta wall in a very unusual way that would have lead Miles to sudden death
most likely as a toddler with overexertion. Miles went on the bypass machine
three separate times, had multiple blood transfusions and enough liquid pumped
into him to offset some blood pressure discrepancies that he looked like a
water balloon about to burst. Even his head was swollen and was reminiscent of
that 90’s classic: Coneheads. It was a rough night for Miles Ray Dipo but that
was just the beginning.
Because of the challenges of his surgery, he ended up being
intubated for 9 days. While intubated, they needed to sedate him and so he
became addicted to the sedatives and painkillers they provided. After about a
week of fasting they gave him an NG tube that allowed breast milk to go
straight into his tummy at a very slow rate. We spent 11 days in the CICU then transferred to the “floor”
to start weaning him off various medications, IVs, oxygen and increasing his
food intake. I swear they would have kept us there for two more weeks at a
minimum but at this point I had lost my patience with the hospital and began
pushing hard to send us home and let us administer and wean the meds and
monitor his nutrition intake. We pushed and pushed and finally, yesterday
afternoon, they allowed us to go home with an NG tube still taped to Miles’
face (which he will likely need for another month or two) and a suitcase full
of medicines.
The reality of our situation hit us hard when we got home.
Miles needs around-the-clock care with medicines and his feeds (he does about
30 minutes of oral feeding through a bottle and the rest of his nutrition is
pumped into him over another hour)- every three hours. We have medicines to
inject, weaning schedules to juggle and a baby with severe reflux and
withdrawal symptoms so we need to hold him and burp him for hours to help keep
his food down. Meanwhile I’m pumping breast milk around the clock, trying to
find some time to sleep and oh by the way we have to manage a very energetic
toddler. No wonder they wanted us to stay in the hospital… Fortunately, Morgan is staying home one more
week from work which will hopefully be enough to get us into a better routine
or at least a little more used to the new normal.
The worst part is we aren’t anywhere near done. Aside from
the other tumors throughout his body and whatever challenges that will bring,
Miles will have many more heart surgeries throughout his life. Most likely he
will have a cath procedure at age 1, another a few months later, the open-heart
surgery at age 2, and then various cath procedures until he is about 8 when he
will have another major surgery. Following that his heart maintenance for life
will include cath procedures replacing his valve every 7-10 years.
Though its overwhelming (biggest understatement ever), being
home with my giggling, joyful sweet two year old is a welcome distraction from
this emotional and trying time even if it adds another level of complexity. It
has taken days to write this blog post and considering our new time demands I’m
not sure how often I’ll be able to post from here on out, but I’ll try to keep
you updated as major things happen. We are so grateful for the love and support you have all
shown. From encouraging messages of support, hospital visits, countless meals,
gifts and the most incredible family members putting their own lives on hold,
we have felt very loved and supported.
Now I’m not sure we will ever leave our house ever again but we will
love having visitors as long as you don’t expect a clean house and good food…
I’ll get to that in a couple years.